Monday, June 27, 2011

Lightning

One of our dogs is terrified of thunder - if he is outside. He stays relatively calm if he is indoors while it is thundering. I guess he knows instinctively what our mother used to tell us boys: come inside you hear thunder. 

Good advice. If you hear thunder, the lightning is close enough to be dangerous to you. 

One summer day in the late sixties, a large group of us went to the lake to ski – well, the others went to ski. I mostly went to watch the girls get wet. “It came up a cloud” (as we say in the South).

The power-company owned lake was not surrounded by upscale housing – upscale docks, yes, but not housing. Some rustic cabins. Mostly, though, old trailers that had been towed to the lakeshore and put on blocks. Electricity and indoor plumbing but that was about it. 

The host’s trailer was way too small for all of us to take shelter inside when it began to rain. But who minds rain when you are already wet from being in the lake? 

Then the lightning started. Close. Thunder peals were deafening. We crowded inside the best we could.

And then lightning struck somewhere close. Doug (not his real name) had been standing in the doorway, leaning against the metal jamb. He hit the floor. He turned bluish and foamed at the mouth. I had seen this before – when my just-crawling brother had picked up an extension cord that was plugged into the wall and put the other end in his mouth. And then licked it. 

No lasting damage to him, but a nasty shock. Same with Doug, fortunately. He caught his breath, someone rushed him to the doctor and all turned out well. 

He ate a lot less dinner than the rest of us, though. LIghtning had left him queasy. For a few days afterwards at school, we watched to see if his eyes glowed or his fingers sparked and then we forgot about it.

Thunderstorms this summer reminded me though, these forty-plus years later. So when I hear thunder I make sure I’m heading indoors.

Even indoors is not safe enough according to my mother and her lady friends. They wouldn’t go to the bathroom when it was thundering. Mom nearly stroked when she once realized that I actually had taken a bath during a thunderstorm. 

She also turned off all the lights during storms and would not sit near anything electrical (even if they were unplugged). Her reason was two previous encounters will ball lightning. Now there are different accounts of what that is – and differing opinions about whether it even exists. But she had two encounters with something.

The first, she said, was when lightning struck two trees in the yard. They had a metal clothesline running between them and whether one tree was struck or both were - both had the scars to prove something happened. Vertical wounds that looked like something had taken a slice out of each of them. (Dad moved the clothesline.) 

When the trees where slashed by heavenly fire I was sitting in my highchair. Mom said blue, fiery spheres came out of the wall, rolled down to the floor, across the floor – and that I was sitting in the highchair watching the light show while she screamed and ran to her baby.

Her second encounter was similar but there was no nearby lightning strike (that she knew of) and she was home alone. Different room. Thunderstorm. Blue fire ball out of an electrical outlet, rolling across the floor to disappear in a sizzle. 

Whatever happened, the outlet never worked again. But then, it may never have worked before. Since Dad would only let us plug in one thing at a time, it was hard to tell. it wasn’t near the television.


Copyright Roger Hoyt Ard June 2011



Wednesday, June 22, 2011

Summer Rain

On the second day of summer, I worked all afternoon in the rain. It felt great and it triggered some memories.

Growing up, rain was our only hope in summer. Long, hot days - no air conditioning. Oh, a few friends homes had a window unit in the den and in mom an dad’s bedroom – and the doctor’s office had one, too - but those cool places were off limits to kids. 

So was Belk’s - the first store in our town to have central air (even the movie theatre had only giant, noisy fans). We would duck into the cool store whenever we could, pretending to shop for knit pants and bright knit shirts (made of wonderful, miracle polyester!) – but the manager was never fooled and always shooed us away immediately. (We were puzzled at how he knew we had no money.)

We experimented with spending the whole, hot day in the Y pool - but we couldn’t do that often because of the sunburn. (And if anybody had sunscreen - we didn’t. What the girls had was tanning cream. Whatever that was.)

So rain was our only hope for relief in summer. (Or a cold bath - but that wasn’t great because the “cold” tap water was tepid. And parents would rarely let us use the garden hose for more than a few seconds.) 

Nights so hot, I would lie on the floor next to the bed because it was (a little) cooler than the bed. 

But, ah, when it rained! I would set myself up on the front porch (day or night) with a stack of comics or one of those canned science kits sold by Western Auto in the toy section. Hearing the rain, smelling the rain - once in a while going to just stand in the rain. Summer bliss.

A few years ago, a group of kids from the Middle East were at camp in the North Georgia HIlls. (http://www.kidsforpeaceglobal.org) A heavy rainstorm blew in - and the kids ran outside laughing, jumping, excited (the way we would have been in a snow storm). They had never before seen heavy, sustained rain. From a dry part of the world - one of their lingering memories of America would be summer rain.

On the second day of summer, I worked all afternoon in the rain. It felt great and it triggered some memories.

Saturday, June 18, 2011

Writing Your Own Obituary?

Have you ever thought about writing your own obituary? Making sure that it says what you want it to?

Personally, I have always declined to write my obituary or plan my funeral. It seems to me that this is part of the process one’s loved ones need to go through. No harm to make some notes to help them – but all this is for them, not for me.

Then, someone sent me an obit unlike any I have ever read before. I feel certain that she wrote it herself. I know nothing about this person except what is written, but it makes me wish I had known her.

I imagine a woman laughing many times as she worked on it and pictured friends and relatives reading it one day. I have no idea whether she thought strangers would see it, but read it here:


Wednesday, June 15, 2011

Retiring Men




Retiring Men

In 2007 it dawned on me that, with careful planning, I could retire in 2011 at the age of 58. I was feeling ready for a change – wanting to do some new things with the rest of my life.  I did not think I could afford it. (Who does?) But I read several books on retirement, read a lot on the internet about financial planning and retirement - and attended an excellent workshop that helped me sort out exactly what would be necessary. (Thanks, Church Pension Fund! Thanks CREDO!)

Everything pointed to the fact that I could pull this off if I really wanted to – and if I was willing to make some changes in my lifestyle. 

Still, I wavered often over the three years between the birth of my dream and the day I actually stepped into it. Why?

Fear. Especially the fears others projected onto me - projections I was too willing sometimes to accept. Joseph Campbell once said that nobody wants you to do what you want to do. He followed that up by saying follow your bliss. It is clear to me, as never before, that my happiness required me to de-link myself from other people’s expectations and their projected fears. Then I could start working on freeing myself from my own fears.

I know men who want to retire and don’t. I know men who don’t want to retire ever – and that’s fine – except some of them don’t want to simply because they cannot imagine changing their self-definition. Fear. Whatever you want to do – or not do – is fine by me. But I wanted to retire and I did. I don’t want my life circumscribed by fear. And it’s not.

I’m only in my fourth month past the last day on the job. I’ll keep you posted as time goes on.

The best advice i received? Two things from two retired friends:


1. When you find yourself dreading going to work more days than not, it is time to change your life - before illness changes it for you. (Thanks, David.)

2. Nobody is ever ready. Just do it. (Thanks, Bob.)

© Roger Hoyt Ard 2011